Yes, you can create a second Tailnet in Tailscale and add your server without including your personal devices. You’ll have to create a separate account with a separate email address. Then you can join this second Tailnet with your server while leaving your other devices out. The separation allows you to manage connectivity and network policies independently.

Yes, there is two ways you can go about this. The way that you are thinking of (and the way that I would ideally like to go about this) is as listed on this help article. This is perfect for sharing a home server to some friends, and letting them access a given service without seeing any of your personal devices.

The other option is to have just one tailnet, but having multiple users as detailed here. Notably this can be a security regression (if you don’t limit access on a per-user basis with ACLs), but is ideal for sharing access to your entire network with your spouse / older children within the context of self-hosting.

For example, I have a friend who has shared a minecraft server with me and that is an ideal example of sharing one node to a seperate tailnet. I am an admin of the server, and can manage the docker container for it + the backup sidecar and the SMB share, but that is where my access to his network structure ends.

This contrasts the situation with my partner for example, where we share a tailnet (with seperate user logins) to make things like gamestreaming just that much easier to setup. Hypothetically I can use ACLs to limit access to stuff like the Cockpit web-management portal, or block the SSH port, but I don’t feel like I need to in my specific case.

Addendum: I also think sharing the device out strips it of its subnet routes + services, which is part of the problem I am running into where I do want it to strip subnet routing (my elderly parents DO NOT need access to my printer), but I ideally want to be able to still use tailscale serve + services + https certificates to be able to share my self-hosted RSS feed reader for them (ad-free, no AI slop, much better for my one parental figure with early-onset dementia).

Addendum 2: I highly recommend exploring tagging + ACLs if you are looking into personal usage / seperation of networks. It is just a much easier approach of seperating devices that are owned and operated by the same person. I would only explore multi-tailnet option when it is different users and you want to share a very limited scope of your network.

It’s problematic, but possible: jamesguthrie.ch/…/multi-tailnet-unlocking-access-…

That is what it seems like based on what I have read :/

I guess the best option in my case then is likely to add them as a non-admin user to my tailnet. The only concern I have is with the potential of one user deactivating the VPN connection unkowingly, which is probably where Funnel comes in as a better option, but I would prefer to avoid serving stuff on the web when possible. (It is specifically a FreshRSS instance for now)